Life is interesting when you are a reality surfer. One moment you are swimming out towards the waves and the next you are riding high. Riding high is a thrill but eventually the wave crashes and you just hope you make a smooth exit. Otherwise you crash and may even fight for your life. I can’t tell you when I began surfing reality. It could have been as a young child watching whales flow through my darkened room. My skeleton wasn’t hidden in the closet. Instead, it liked to manage things in plain sight. Is it any wonder that at times I became overwhelmed and I walked across the hall to crawl into my grandma’s bed. The only problem with that was that often upon stepping out of bed in the morning I would step right into a pile of dog shit. That was our border collie shepherd mix Brandy’s favorite place to take a dump. So I would start the day rinsing my foot under the faucet in the bath tub.
Water is a magical thing. Have you ever imagined washing all your cares away beneath the stream of a hot shower? I do this thing where I try to stay really present throughout my bath or shower. Okay now I am putting soap on the loofah. Now I am scrubbing my feet, and etc; I try not to think about outside drama. I focus completely on myself. Sometimes I will say a prayer. When you are doing self care you really have to care for the self. Ultimately, caring for the self is as good as caring for everyone else.
I never planned on writing a book. However, the universe compels me. I told my friend I couldn’t think it through from beginning to end. He said don’t think it just write it. Channel it if you must. So I’m giving this my best and I hope that you will find it readable even if it does skip around the way that my mind often does.
It’s currently 4am and I’ve been awake since 1am. I do this every other night or so. I just love the night time. I try to make up for lost sleep during the day but that doesn’t always happen. I’ve been this way as long as I can remember. My doctor probably attributes it to my having bipolar disorder. I think I am just a night owl.
I just unmuted the television. I’m watching Gaia TV, a show about extra-terrestrials. I’ve never personally encountered and ET but when I was in high school my crush gave me the nickname ET. I was crushed by my crush. I was expecting a cute nickname. Instead the popular people walked down the halls pointing their fingers at me saying “ET phone home,” whenever they saw me. I asked him why he called me that. I forget what he said. Something about me being weird.
Back then it really hurt my feelings but now I take it as a compliment. Who wants to fit in, in an insane world. Why join the insanity? So many ego’s run wild. So many dreamers and sleepers. Is it easy to be awake in times like these? I guess it is effortless. Reality surfing can be more like wake boarding at times. The best time is when you are laying on your board looking at the sky trying to name the shape of clouds.
I have a strong memory of watching the clouds when I was in preschool. The clouds were moving and I was in awe. Have you ever een the clouds part suddenly and show you blinding light from the sun? I want to be like that blinding light. So bright that you are going to need shades.
The flames are dancing in my candle. Why are they dancing? Why are we dancing? Oh you sat this one out? I used to be a wall flower. My high school sweetheart rescued me from the sidelines. He ‘accidentally’ sat on me thinking I was someone else. It reminds me of how I met my husband. He came up to me introduced himself and bopped my beer. Causing it to spill everywhere. I think he helped me clean it up. So many shots of jagermeister later I thought we were having a one night stand. Eighteen years later I’m not so sure.
I have a lot of respect for him being with me through all the stops and starts. Through all the times I crashed so hard. Through my dark night of the soul. He has been my rock through it all and I just want for him to realize how much I love and appreciate him.
Sometimes people don’t understand on the outside looking in. My brother thinks my husband is abusive and it is really my fault that he thinks that way. When I got super manic in 2011 I went across the country, first by bus, then by train and I landed at my brother’s door. I told him many things from my jacked up perception that would make anyone think my husband Chris was a bad, no good, terrible guy. So even though it is 2020 now, my brother still thinks about what I said back then. In a drunken stupor he said he never wanted to see Chris again. So I guess we won’t really be seeing each other.
Still that makes not much difference. My brother and I were separated when I was 5. He got adopted and for inexplicable reasons I did not. Instead, I was destined to live with my controlling foster mom until I was 13. At that time I was disowned at my foster father’s funeral and I knew I needed to make a change. I told the social worker I wanted to move and they were all over it. Then I moved in with my new foster family and that is when I lost my faith in God.
Has that faith really returned? At times I can give that an astounding yes. I have experienced God in so many ways in my life. I almost feel blessed by having bipolar disorder because it helped me see from the highest vista’s. I am fortunate that I don’t usually crash too hard. A month of bliss is followed by a few months of no motivation and lots of sleep. I think it is a worth while trade off. However not everyone with bipolar experiences it the same.
Most people are afraid of the psych ward. I used to be too, but now I’ve found a ward where I can feel safe enough to grow beyond myself. There are nature scenes on the wall and pictures of sky on the ceiling. There are also globular mirrors on the ceiling. I used to lay on the floor and stare into these mirrors until I could swear that I saw Jesus. He was always administering to the other patients in the guise of a friendly nurse.
One time there was a synchronicity. Outside the hospital I had been studying Course in Miracles. Once inside the psych ward I met another patient who was studying the course. He had some printouts of some of the lessons. We sat in the cafeteria together and he read the lesson to me. As he read tears came to my eyes and I could see Jesus’ face before me. It was a mystical experience for sure.
Sometimes it’s the synchronicities that really get to me. There are so many of them all at once it makes me feel like I am losing my mind. Once I feel like I am losing my mind it doesn’t take much before I literally am out of my mind. There have been times I went to the psych ward like that. There have been the voluntary times when I was more aware.
I find the ward to be a real learning experience. Here you are, not having it all together, surrounded by others who are also not quite themselves. They put us together in groups and it is supposed to be like a mental health milieu. But sometimes it is more like expansion of craziness.